Isaac* never wanted to go to school, or even leave his bedroom. He was a closed book to others in his residential care home and had frequent angry outbursts. If you met Isaac a year ago, he may not have known how to talk to you.
Isaac was removed from his parents' care at a young age and placed in foster care. When a child has experienced significant trauma, residential care can sometimes be a more suitable environment, as tailored, 24/7 support is provided by professional carers. This is where Isaac was living before everything changed, just a year ago.
In April last year, Isaac moved into semi-independent living with a youth mentor and another 16-year-old. Youth mentors act as positive role models for young people and provide practical support and guidance on day-to-day living needs. For a young person living with autism, ADHD, and anxiety, it was a major adjustment.
Isaac wasn't sure what to expect, other than that he would have more freedom. The prospect of this was exciting, as well as nerve wracking.
Despite his initial trepidation, Isaac has thrived in the new environment. He has taken every opportunity to learn key life skills, such as preparing meals, budgeting, laundry and maintaining the garden. Moreover, he has begun to make a routine for himself - something which has helped build his sense of stability and confidence.
With more self-confidence, Isaac has also learnt that it's ok to fail. He is challenging himself more every day and is now considering a career in perfume making. He already has a backup plan if that doesn't work out - he will pursue carpet or rug making.
"He's ready to step out and take on some challenges, because he feels safe to do so," says Isaac's Case Manager, Ben. "He's a very positive kid now."
Isaac's engagement in school has also transformed. He now actively wants to be at school and has doubled his attendance. The shift in attitude is apparent to his teachers who have been very impressed with his work.
Ben has been blown away by the changes he's seen, especially in Isaac's maturity and ability to self-regulate.
Isaac's behaviour is what has really changed. He is willing to speak to new people. He's not an angry kid anymore.
"Isaac used to take his anger out on everyone else. Now, if he does get angry, he can self-regulate and take himself out of a situation. He can also apologise for his actions. The old Isaac couldn't do that. He understands other people are here to help him," says Ben.
Young people are often praised for their achievements. Whether it's doing well at school, a well-played sports match, or taking care of someone else in their life. While Isaac continues to achieve at school and at home deserves the ultimate praise for learning to regulate his emotions, manage his anxiety and step out of his comfort zone. Despite the challenges he still faces with his disability, these core life skills will put him in great stead for the path that lies ahead.
*Name changed and model image used to protect privacy.
Becoming a live-in youth mentor is a unique and incredibly rewarding opportunity. By acting as a positive role model, you can transform the life of young people just like Isaac.